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Christy

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posted February 04, 2002 01:48

Someone please stab my heart.

I like this boy. I've been fighting my feelings for him for awhile, but it's really not working. I'm getting tired of fighting against my feelings. I've kinda liked him since the first week of winter quarter.. which was 4 weeks ago. Sometimes I like him.. and somtimes I just like being his friend. But I think I want to start something with him now... but I'm too afraid to make the first move, or even to push whatever I might have with him. I don't really know how he feels.. He told his friend that I was "cute".. but I don't know much more than that.

Any suggestions on what I should do?

--Christy

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Public Humiliation

Member # 11

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posted February 04, 2002 02:26

well i know it's weird and all, but you kinda have to tell him how you feel, just say what you typed here. if he says yes, everybody kicks a goal, if he says no, then you move on.

don't dwell.

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kiddy

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posted February 05, 2002 01:42

sounds lame but
get pissed with him
launch him if he likes it he likes it you hook up
if he doesnt you blame it on the alcohol
as lame as it is its the only way if youre a pissant such as me

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SickOfSlutes

Member # 106

posted February 05, 2002 07:04

In all seriously I'm going the drunk option as well. Get a bit wasted, but not too plastered, there's a science to this age-old trick.

Then just confess that you got a bit of a thinng for a him and see where that takes ya. If something happens you're in the door. Now all you gotta do is wait til next morning when yer sober to see if he wants to continue with anything.

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PunkMunkey

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posted February 05, 2002 07:45

As much as I really like getting drunk, that's the fucking most asinine idea I've ever heard...balming your indescretions on alcohol only makes you seem stupid and immature...like you can't control your own actions...

Christy, the only way to handle the situation is directly...lay it on the line...you don't have to pour your heart and soul out to him, just let him know that you enjoy his company...and see if he'd like to see where that leads...you don't have to throw yourself at him...it's a tough situation, but one that can easily be handled with tact...if you share a class then "study" together on night...if you share the same tast in music then let him know of a show that he might be interested in...anything to get you two on common ground...then you just let whatever happens happen...

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Christy

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posted February 05, 2002 08:45

Well.. the one condition of me actually making the first move requires NO AGUA DE FUEGO! Seriously.. piss drunk girls = unattractive, usually because of the stupidity. Although they might be easy, they're hella annoying.

RJ hit just about everything the boy has said to me. He wants to study sometime (infact, I think we might study today... although I don't know what time??) And he asked about upcoming shows the other day. I told him about a few and he said he'd definitely go with me. Score! If we do study today, hopefully something happens to let me know he's interested too. Eep.

Useless fact: My cold symptoms have worsened. The eye is still pink. The cough now has phlegm. And I have some green stuff coming out of my nose. It's not the most attractive thing in the world, but oh well. My health + College = WHACK!

--Christy

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Jody

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posted February 05, 2002 14:12

My freshman year of college, I was really attracted to this one guy in my dorm but I wasn't sure of how to approach him, so one day he was playing pool in the game room so I went right over to him and I challenged him to a game. Turned out that he liked all the same music as me and we went to a show together the next weekend (I think it was the band Fifteen...boy does that date me). Anyway, we ended up dating for about 5 years!

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Christy

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posted February 07, 2002 17:21

Wow. That's kinda neat, Jody.

No study dates have happened. Although today I apparently capitalized on his sickness and took care of him. Eep. My friend told me that.. but I thought I was just being a nice friend by offering to help. It's probably really really obvious that I like him... :-X

--Christy

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PunkMunkey

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posted February 07, 2002 18:22

Obvious is OK...before we started dating my (now) wife used to always drop hints about how she liked me...I never realized that that's what she was doing until she told me months later...sometimes dropping hints isn't enough...sometimes guys need obvious...

...much luck to you...

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***norm

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posted February 08, 2002 06:23

Yeah, guys aren't all that good with hints. In fact, we suck at them. If there was an unassuming way a girl could club us in the head, that'd be cool. We'd get it then. But if left to our own devices, we sit and think things like... "Mmmm, I like beer." All the while, some girl is practically standing on her head telling us she digs us. Good thing we have friends, because in truth, they usually see these things (if female) or are told of the "crush"/situation and then reveal it.

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Walter Sobchek

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posted February 08, 2002 09:15

amen to that. they should teach classes that make girls more upfront with these kinds of feelings, because, well, guys ARE morons. everybody goes through it and hits the point where they get too scared to make something of a possible situation. well, what's worse...chickening out? or finding out later that if you had only approached that person, you would have been in a great relationship/had a great sex romp/whatever it is you're looking for? i say the second one. i think i finally learned this early in my 21st year. and i'm still with that person today.

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Christy

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posted February 08, 2002 09:19

I should be studying for my midterm today.. but screw that. Updates:

I just learned that the guy is still in love with his ex girlfriend. They went out in high school for about 1.5 - 2 years, and broke up 4 months ago. She lives in the same residence hall as he does, and they even share a class or two together. He apparently still loves her. I can't do anything until he stops loving her and moves on.

This makes it really bad for me because as each day goes by with me hanging out with him, I realize more and more how much I like him because of our many similar interests. I love being his friend, but I wouldn't mind being something more. Either way, he's a really nice guy and I'd like it for him to be in my life one way or another.

I don't think I'll neccesarily wait for him.. but I don't think I'll really find another guy that I'd like as much as I like him. Eh. So I'm kinda stuck in this neutral position.. So whatever happens, will happen, I guess.

--Christy

Responses to the obviousness: I literally went over to his room, heard him puke out his insides, and took him to student health. I could have been in my room studying for my midterm, but I was out taking care of him instead. Everyone else was kinda like "Hope you feel better" to him.. I guess it could be kinda not obvious. Ok. *moves on*

He also apparently called one of his friends (that I know pretty well) after I left his room. He told the friend that I was over there being super nice. One, possibly two, of his friends know that I like him.. but they strongly advised me to not get with him because of the above issue and other things that they claimed would "make me sad if I hooked up with him."

[ February 08, 2002: Message edited by: Christy ]

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Ewan

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posted February 08, 2002 10:57

quote:
Originally posted by ***norm:
Yeah, guys aren't all that good with hints.

Damn right.

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Jody

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posted February 08, 2002 13:24

This kind of reminds me of that show "Undeclared". Anybody watch it? It's not bad. I am in love with the british kid (but don't tell my husband

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Erimica

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posted February 08, 2002 14:50

quote:
Originally posted by Walter Sobchek:
amen to that. they should teach classes that make girls more upfront with these kinds of feelings, because, well, guys ARE morons.

i think they need to teach classes that boys not as FUCKING STUPID.

what? NO I AM NOT BITTER.

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